| my partner was up to and how he should be behaving and feeling toward me.
Did I believe jealousy You bet I did. That went on for years until I learnt a few painful lessons and decided that it should go and leave me alone for good. That happened too late though.
My suspicions when jealousy set in cost me broken relationships, distress and a deep plunge in my self-esteem and worthiness.
Having gone through what I did, I have a few points here to assist you from allowing jealousy to ruin your life.
The first thing to do is to simply make a decision to get rid of that feeling. That means telling yourself that you have had it with the attitude of being suspicious, distrusting and possessive.
Next start saying different things to yourself. Jealousy is going to remind you that if you focus on other things, your partner may abandon you. Tell it firmly that you are in control and you want to choose your own thoughts.
Have respect for yourself. If your partner abandons you, put your hurt behind and start life over. If he actually cheats on you, he is not worth your time and effort. Your life will continue to evolve no matter what happens, if you decide to make it so.
Learn how to trust and expect good things to happen. One of the reasons why we suffer is because we unconsciously expect bad things to happen. Develop faith and confidence in your relationships. It promotes better understanding, avoids stress and gives you a peace of mind.
Learn how to communicate effectively. One great tip, dont nag. Heres another, dont bring out old issues and mistakes. Both irritate and put a stop for further constructive conversations.
Learn to listen without interrupting, judging and probing. Allow him to talk and finish his sentences. If you must ask, do it with the intent to seek understanding. He can tell from your words, gestures and body language if you are sincere.
Now the last but most important thing is to learn to love everyone including yourself unconditionally. No strings, no bargains and no threats.
About The Author
Fatimah Musa provides information, tips and quotes to help people become aware that any future success starts with their personal growth. You can visit Fatimah at http://www.about-personal-growth.com or read more articles at http://www.about-personal-growth.com/personal-growth-articles.html.
This article was posted on January 24, 2006 |
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