Want to succeed in online dating Your dating profile (or personal profile) may well be the difference between success and failure. Why
Well, online, you are what you write. Your personal ad is your first introduction to the person you want to meet.
You see, during face to face communication other aspects | | such as body language, choice of clothing, individual scent, body language, poise etc. all come to play. While extremely few people (if any) are strong in all the aspects, your one or two strong areas might be so endearing that the other person might forgive or not even notice the weaknesses.
But in online dating all you have is your profile. Lose here and lose all.
Not only that but writing your profile does other positive things to you like:
1. Makes you admit that you do need to find a date.
2. Forces you to look deeper into yourself and get to know the real you.
3. Allows you to be specific about the kind of person you are looking for, beyond the basics.
I cannot overemphasize the importance of a winning dating profile, especially for the single person seeking a serious relationship.
Now, get pen and paper ready, get comfortable. You are going to take a few notes that will make your dating profile talk for you. We begin with the skeleton.
There are three key points to writing an appealing dating profile:
1. Know what you want
2. Know yourself
3. Know the type of person you want
Lets break each of these down farther:
1. Know what you want: think about what you are looking for such as:
A serious relationship
Casual relationship
A date
Marriage
A discreet partner
An escort
A companion
A friend, pen pal, or e-pal
Experimentation
Other things that it might help think of are:
Kids or no kids (now or in future)
Commitment
Your sexual orientation/preference
Age range
Race, if its an issue
Religion, if this is important to you
Geographical proximity
Educational background if thats important to you
Write it down.
2. Know yourself- Apart from the generic information such as your age, height and weight, you will need to know your qualities, assets and liabilities as well as hobbies, likes and dislikes. Think about:
a. Your assets: Some things to think about are:
Sense of humor
Romantic
Confident
Sociable
Honest
Intelligent
Ready for commitment
Compassionate
Open-minded
Intelligent
The above are just examples, and dont even scrape the surface. Let your mind run. Write down everything, however trivial or ridiculous.
b. Your liabilities: these may just be opposites of assets (above) or more. List these down. Here are some examples:
Greedy
Cheap
Jealous (not always a bad thing)
Afraid of commitment
Depressive
Prejudiced
Substance abuse or history of
Bossy
Hard to live with
Nagger
Other things to think about:
What are your strengths
What are |
| | of assets (above) or more. List these down. Here are some examples:
Greedy
Cheap
Jealous (not always a bad thing)
Afraid of commitment
Depressive
Prejudiced
Substance abuse or history of
Bossy
Hard to live with
Nagger
Other things to think about:
What are your strengths
What are your weaknesses
What do you like to do in your spare time
Where do you like to go in your spare time
What do your friends like about you
What does your mom love about you
If you were to change one thing about you, what would that be
What type of relationship do you seek
What are your likes/dislikes
What makes you good company
3. The type of person you want: This may appear easy, but surprisingly most singles do not know what they are looking for beyond the basics.
Now, try to go beyond physical attributes and get into the soul of the person you want. Think of qualities you would like, just as you thought of your own. Also remember that similarities as well as differences do make good matches (a talkative person might match well with a quiet one, for example).
Now you have most of the basics of writing your dating profile covered. Plus, you now can provide answers to profile questions on any dating site without struggling too much.
The next step is writing your personal ad. This is the heart of your dating profile. We shall cover this in part 2.
About The Author
David Kamau is webmaster of http://e-datecentral.com, which reviews dating site. Can't wait for part 2 Read the full article at: http://e-datecentral.com/dating_advice/write-a-personal-profile.htm.
This article was posted on October 30, 2006 |
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