I cant believe the mixed-messages our media-driven society sends regarding todays topic. If you watch daytime television or Lifetime Network (which I dont, whenever possible) youll be hit with commercials depicting some hot mommies doing their typical superhuman things, including dealing with several | | toddlers while looking good doing it. Then, watch late-night television (which I also dont, whenever possible) and youll be hit with infomercials designed to make women feel self-conscious about what motherhood has done to their physical appearance.
Whatever.
You know by now how I feel about what the media has done to distort our concept of what really is attractive to the opposite sex. So make no mistake about it: Motherhood can be, and I would argue usually is, very sexy. In just about every way.
The low hanging fruit here (no, not that) is the rise of MILFdom in recent years. If you are unfamiliar with the term look it up elsewhere, but for all intents and purposes MILF = sexy mom. For some reason, and a good one, even younger guys have figured out that Staceys Mom Has Got It Going On.
Thats no joke either. If you are a 35 year old woman with an online profile, you might be getting messages from younguns who havent even cleared college age yet. No, this isnt some weird (and recurring) software error. Theyre digging you.
I have personally been out with several women in their thirties who had daughters at a very young age. These kids are now in high school. Each mama had a story to tell when I asked if theres ever an issue when their daughters little boy friends meet mom. One woman even has a pact with her daughter that they wont date anyone closer in age to the other than themselves. Hilarious, but true.
How about before a woman has even given birthduring her pregnancy Yeah ladies, we knowus guys hear all the time how fat, etc. you are getting. You feel disgusting. Well, you arent. ESPECIALLY to the Dad. Now we arent talking about man-boy I/Js (Idiot/Jerks) here who either 1) are using a womans pending new family commitment (and the fact that presumably she wouldnt dare leave him while in that condition) as an excuse to throw down with every chickie babe silly enough to let him have a piece, or 2) who are just flat out morons. Mama, if your man loves you, he loves you pregnant. When he tells you that you are beautiful, will you please believe it Thats his kid going on in there! In fact, some guys are turned on by pregnant women in general, and there are Web sites to prove it.
If you look at scientific studies on how heterosexual men and women become attracted to one another, it often comes down to archetypal response to pointers of fertility. I mean, lets face it: sexual attraction, from the natural aspect, comes down to procreation. S/he who is more fertile is more attractive. Fertility and gene-pool qu |
| | on how heterosexual men and women become attracted to one another, it often comes down to archetypal response to pointers of fertility. I mean, lets face it: sexual attraction, from the natural aspect, comes down to procreation. S/he who is more fertile is more attractive. Fertility and gene-pool quality (which is another topic altogether) are what make us attractive to the opposite gender a lot of the time. So here it isif you are a mom already, it makes sense that your proven fertility is going to make you attractive to men. If you want to argue with me on this, go for it, but I believe very strongly that this is the case. At the very least, men often are not turned off by the physical effects of pregnancy like many women somehow seem to believe. On top of all else, dont be surprised that many guys--if they are man enough to admit itactually have no issue with the stretch marks and any other evidence that you have been pregnant before. I personally believe that caesarian scars are sexy. And Im not weird.
So is this only all about looking good I really dont think so. There is something about motherhood that changes a woman. Not all guys understand this pragmatically, but many respond positively to such thingseven if subconsciously.
Everyone knows that confidence is a huge turn-on for both genders. And moms tend to learn lifes tough lessons about responsibility. Especially single moms. Any guy who wants to find an amazing woman--one with a confident attitude to take on the world with--should hang out with a single mom or two. 'Nuff said.
And, you know what It might not hurt to add how fatherhood tends to be a turn on for women also, especiallymoms. Big surprise there, right Have you ever noticed that moms and dads really tend to appreciate each othereven at the raw attraction level Yeah, well, Im a Dadand I absolutely have.
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Want to hear more Scot McKay is a dating coach in San Antonio, TX and founder of X & Y Communications, a one-stop-shop for dating resources. He is the author of the new book Deserve What You Want, and hosts the popular podcast series X & Y On The Fly. He may be reached at scot@xandycommunications.net or on the Web at http://www.dating-advice.us/ and http://www.datetoorder.com/ . The podcast series is available free of charge at http://feeds.feedburner.com/xyonthefly.
This article was posted on October 20, 2006 |
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