When you assume radical personal responsibility,
you live in a truth that proclaims:
I am responsible for how I allow others to affect me.
In a world of forces beyond my control, I can learn
to be the keeper of my own heart and mind.
Even when things appear not to be going my way,
and I am upon | | an emotional sea of crossing and
diverging currents, I can still navigate my way
to my ultimate good fortune.
I proclaim that I am not a victim of the world I see.
I am a co-creator of it. Let love and wisdom be my
moral compass, and let clarity be the wind in my
sails.
New peace, harmony, and power fill your relationships
when you practice radical personal responsibility.
Through it, you enter a more refined sphere of
relating that enhances your life and accelerates
the realization of your ultimate spiritual self.
Practicing radical personal responsibility forever
changes the way you approach and resolve conflict.
Jealousy and other emotions like it can appear to be
happening to us or to be inflicted on us by others.
But to address the root cause of any upset, you must
learn to observe the internal factors that shape
your own perceptions and reactions. We call this
ability to observe yourself and realize your power
to alter these perceptions and reactions Radical
Personal Responsibility.
We call it radical because it is such a departure
from what is commonly thought of as responsibility,
which can mean laying blame. Instead, it is insight
into the deeper workings of your mind that
illuminates how you have contributed to any
challenging situation before you.
When you take personal responsibility, what are
you taking responsibility for You are taking
responsibility for your own consciousness and
the effects that it creates. The thoughts,
beliefs, feelings, attitudes, impressions,
perceptions, and interpretationsall of
which you hold in your consciousnesscan be a
matter of choice.
If you are like most people, you are unaware of all
the moments of choosing that go into your beliefs
and your interpretations. You probably haven't
noticed you are making choices all the time,
choices that determine the possibilities that
will be open or closed to you in your future.
If it feels as if your beliefs just show up fully
developed and you have nothing to do with
how they came to be a part of you, it is because
you have not developed the ability to
observe your own mind. The CURE (Conscious Upset
Resolution Exercise) will help you.
Most of your beliefs were probably absorbed from
your family when you were younger. The rest of
them were absorbed from the community you grew
up in and from the culture at large. The process
of absorbing them was invisible to you, so you
didn't notice you were doing it. It happened
silently, in the b |
| | beliefs were probably absorbed from
your family when you were younger. The rest of
them were absorbed from the community you grew
up in and from the culture at large. The process
of absorbing them was invisible to you, so you
didn't notice you were doing it. It happened
silently, in the background of your life. The process
of absorbing your beliefs was invisible to you.
Regaining that awareness and accepting personal
responsibility is an acquired skill. If it wasn't
demonstrated for you when you were growing up, or
you haven't intentionally studied it, chances
are you haven't a clue about how to do it.
A start is to recognize what personal responsibility
is not. In the absence of personal responsibility,
all you can do is blame others for your difficulties
because it looks to you as if they are to blame.
This forever dooms you to a victim mentality
that separates you from your personal power and
spiritual and relational maturity. The CURE will
teach you, step by step, to approach lifes
hurdles in a different way that both enlightens and
empowers you.
Once you learn to practice radical personal
responsibility, you will find a source of inner
strength and power that no one can ever take
away from you. Because of your ability to
take authentic, empowered responsibility, you
will find that, in time, upsets become less
frequent, of shorter duration, and less intense.
This means you have more time and
energy to focus on living the kind of life and
sharing the kind of relationships you truly
want and deserve.
© 2006 Paul and Layne Cutright All rights reserved.
You may publish this article in its entirety and
with the authors resource information intact.
About The Author
Paul and Layne Cutright are relationship coaches and teachers who have been offering secrets and strategies for successful relationships at home and in business since 1976. They are authors of the best selling book, Youre Never Upset for the Reason You Think Secrets and Strategies for Resolving Any Upset Quickly and Easily. www.PaulandLayne.com
paul@paulandlayne.com
This article was posted on April 15, 2006 |
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